Recently one of my clients asked me to help her to communicate more effectively in front of a group. She told me that she wanted to be able to handle questions from tough clients in a group setting without getting ruffled or feeling defensive. In the past, she had experienced freezing up when she was confronted by a client with an aggressive tone or posture. She wanted to be able to move through future experiences with more grace, ease and comfort. A key aspect of being able to withstand the storm of confrontation, questioning, judgement and public evaluation is grounding.
We have all seen leaders who are grounded. They are able to make thoughtful decisions and stick with them. They seem unruffled by unexpected events and disgruntled clients or employees. They are able to be present with people in each interaction, seamlessly shifting their attention from one conversation to the next without skipping a beat. They walk with ease.
Leaders who are un-grounded, on the other hand, are more emotionally volatile (sometimes bursting with anger at employees or at missed deadlines) and are more easily impacted by chaos that surrounds them. They have a harder time bringing clarity to situations, have more difficulty keeping things in perspective, have scattered thoughts and have more trouble focusing and prioritizing. They may also have difficulty moving forward.
Energetically, grounding is a function of
- our own electro-magnetic connection with that of the earth (like magnets that are attracted to each other)
- the flow of energy between us and the earth through meridians (e.g. energetic pathways). Energy flows down from our body into the ground and up from the ground into our body.
- the flow of energy between us and the earth through an energetic vortex that sweeps energy up into our body and spills over and back down to the earth.
Losing our grounding happens with acute or on-going stressors, when we’re exposed to electro-magnetic devices, when we’re on a plane and or in a car for long periods of time, when we wear rubber soled shoes or work in a high-rise building.
The good news is that we can reclaim our grounding with some relatively simple Eden Energy Medicine techniques. These techniques get the energy moving more effectively between our bodies and the earth, thus creating a stronger connection and flow, and enabling us to stand more firmly in our bodies. This leads to more effective and confident communication. Try it and see:
- Massage your feet, especially the spaces in between your metatarsals (toe bones). Gently squeeze each toe and toe nail and pull the energy off of your toes. Try this on one foot and stand up. See if you can feel the difference in how this foot feels on the ground relative to the other foot. Now try it on the other foot.
- Massage your hands, especially the spaces in between your metacarpals (finger bones). Gently squeeze each finger and finger nail and pull the energy off of your fingers. Try this with one hand and then see if your hands feel any different. Now try it on the other hand.
- Spoon your feet. I know that this sounds silly but it is tremendously effective (it re-aligns the polarity of your body to be more connected with that of the earth and leads to grounding). Get a spoon that attracts a magnet. Move the spoon along the sole of your foot and sides of your foot.
- Massage the front of your shin along the outer edge of your tibia down to your 2nd toe (the one right next to your big toe). If you find a tender spot spend some more time there until the tenderness dissipates (the tenderness is often a sign that energy is stuck). This technique helps energy move out of your body and down into the earth which assists with grounding (like a grounding wire in a house).
- Stand on wet grass in bare feet
Being grounded can make an enormous difference in how connected, emotionally stable and effective we are. How different would your interaction and presentation style be if you were grounded?